Keep Your Eyes On Your Own Paper!!!!

Given that we are full swing into the back to school season, I use this title only as an analogy for this week’s reoccurring topic.

It’s pretty easy to see what we don’t have. We have the fortune to live amongst such ease, and affluence that all we need to do is look outside our window and we see others with so much more than we have: bigger house, better car, happier relationship, cuter mate, cuter kids (ok not always lol). Not so easy to see what we have.

This week, everyone I speak with seems to be in “comparison mode”. As we get into our new fall groove individuals are taking a look at what they want better in their lives: slimmer, healthier bodies, better paycheck, greater ease at home. And what is so interesting to me is how the conversation at one point or another shifts toward comparing oneself to somebody whom they may or may not know. “Well she stays so slim!” “My one girlfriend just started the whatchacahoozit diet. Maybe I should do that!”  “I hear that such and such a personal trainer will get me lean in 5 weeks.” “This guy I know just switched jobs and now he is making 4 times his previous salary.”

…sigh

 

There seems to be a very delicate point at which what could be inspiration becomes more like envy.

Many years ago, a very wise wonderful Buddhist leader said to me (and I paraphrase from a Buddhist scripture) “the poor man will never get rich counting the rich man’s money.”

I love this concept. We can certainly be inspired by what others do, or have, or accomplish, but that does not mean their path is our path.  So what do we need to keep moving forward in our wants, dreams, hopes, and desires without measuring our successes against someone else’s?

I believe at the core is a need for appreciation. Now this is tricky. I remember when I was in my twenties, being told I should (hate that word) write an appreciation list. Ughh, all I wanted to do was roll my eyes and suffer in what I really wanted that was not coming to me. 

In that time, I didn’t have the wisdom, and didn’t have a mentor, or friend, who could really explain to me that developing appreciation for my own life would be critical to my happiness. So what I encourage each of us to do for the next thirty days, is to take a little time every day and really tune in to for what we are and can be sincerely grateful. And I mean really. 

I think this can be supported by comparison as well. Not that we want to revel in someone else’s misery or misfortune. But just like with those things we see that we want to move toward, we can see the things that we know we do not suffer: maybe we see a sick person, and cherish our good health; maybe we see someone who is heartbroken and know that we are in a loving relationship; maybe we see someone who is battling obesity and know that our twenty pounds will seem effortless to shed by comparison.

Each of us has been blessed with different gifts. While we work to develop appreciation for them, and use what we have to achieve our desires, let’s also find ways to help others on their paths.

 And as always, please let me know how you are doing.

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Shifting from NOT Ready to READY

Weeks always seem to have a theme. This week, it seems to be one of those times when we say we want to accomplish something but for some reason with all good intentions we just cannot seem to get there. What is that in ourselves that refuses to shift?

I believe it has to do with cost and budget. Everything we do in this life comes with a cost, right? And rarely is it about finance, especially when it comes to personal growth and development. Two definitions of budget are an itemized allotment of funds, time, etc., for a given period; and a limited stock or supply of something. These are very useful when we are trying to figure out our budget for getting what we say we want.

What we want to look is our cost, our itemized allotment, which is not monetary, it is an expense made energetically, or spiritually.

Okay… so let’s do an activity together. You will need a notebook or diary, something on which to write. Before you begin, take one extra minute to breathe. Let yourself be still and quiet, for one minute. Breathe in, purposefully, and exhale, purposefully. Allow yourself to ground. Allow yourself time to accomplish something without a million other things jumping in the way.

  • First: write out what it is you say you want as though it has already happened.       Example: I see myself ten pounds lighter.
  • Second: write out the steps or requirements as you can think of to get your goal.       Let’s say you “know” that in order to lose weight you need to stop eating ice cream at night, great! Write that down. If at first you said, “I must give up ice cream” then that is your truth, please do not start some re-negotiation. Instead, let’s start to move into one of two places: either truly coming to grips with the fact that your daily ice cream is more important to you than losing weight… AND BE OKAY WITH THAT; or coming to a place within yourself where you are willing to give up the ice cream, at least temporarily, so you can enjoy weight loss and a healthier, happier, more vibrant you. You need to move your body more frequently during the day. Write that down, hen  what does that mean?
  • Third: tune in to your personal budget.                                                                                Well let’s say you feel, for whatever reason, that you cannot go to the gym. Okay fine, so instead you know that you can take a ten-minute walk every morning at 10:30, and then a 15-minute walk during your lunch break, and then another 20-minute walk after dinner every night. The more specific you can be, the better you will be able to determine whether this is in your “budget”. This step could be lengthy, so take your time and be willing to have the process be on-going, jot down more steps as they come to you. Be sure that you have the budget in your day to accomplish your goals.

** Fourth, breathe. Even though this is broken down into three simple steps, this is not an easy process. So breathe. Let yourself be with all the thoughts and considerations that will arise as you consider what you really want to have happen in your life and what you are willing to do.

And please let me/us know how it’s going!

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Cellulite, Are you kidding me?

A very dear friend said, “You HAVE to write about cellulite.” I thought “Are you kidding? Isn’t everyone sick of that?” “Maybe, but still people don’t get it!”

“That is ALL I do all day.” Cellulite, fat loss, skin tighten, rinse and repeat. And then I realized, oh right, just because I do this day in and day out, doesn’t mean that other women know what that means. And most important is how do you get rid of it! So let’s discuss:

”We get rid of the fat that is not your fault.” And that is what cellulite is, MOSTLY!!!!! Cellulite is a layer of fat that is most superficial to the skin, it lives above the layer of fat that we actually have control over. But nearly 30 years ago a very brilliant company in France started to clinically determine what the heck this cottage cheese that accumulates in various regions of our body is.

Imagine a cross section of your skin….oooh I know this may hearken back to 9th grade biology, but here we go: …a cross section of your skin, now imagine a parfait (no I am not trying to get you off desserts): you have a top layer of skin, the stratum corneum, the epidermis and the dermis, all together SKIN! Just below, you have the subcutaneous layer, OF FAT! THE CELLULITE LAYER. I know right? Already? Couldn’t we have had a buffer section or something? No! We have fatty tissue that is informed by a combination of genetics and hormones, translation. Because of the connective fibers that run up and down through that layer, they become anchor points for the dimples we see. Those bands become thicker, stronger and more rigid, as the subcu layer becomes more congested. This is why our cellulite gets worse as we get older. Below that we find the layer of fat which is impacted by diet, exercise, and possibly liposuction (more about that later). This is the layer that is your fault! Wink-wink-nudge-nudge-titter-titter. And below that layer, we get to muscle.

The subcu layer can become congested as we move monthly through our hormonal cycle. Each time we get bloated and uncomfortable, we are retaining fluids. Our lymphatic system is responsible for carrying debris away. It runs everywhere in the body, very superficially. I think of it like street sweepers through the body. As the lymphatic system gets congested, that subcu layer swells, causing the connective bands to start to hunker down, since connective tissue not only has the responsibility of connecting one thing to another but also has to maintain a certain spatial relationship. This in turn begins to impair the micro-circulation; we are not getting good blood flow to those layers. Have you ever noticed how really bad cellulite can oftentimes have a mottled appearance? Improved circulation helps improve the coloration of the skin. The lack of good blood supply causes the fat cells to get larger and reconfigured causing further plumping. Then the cycle continues.

So our solution to cellulite is simply this. We use technologies that can address the key factors that create the cellulite: we improve circulation, increase lymphatic flow, facilitate fat loss, soften connective bands and tone and tighten skin. This creates smooth beautiful skin, and a better contour. I know, it sounds like a lot, but Come see us and we will show you just how easy it is. The information behind the machines is complex, but having smoother skin is not.

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