Weeks always seem to have a theme. This week, it seems to be one of those times when we say we want to accomplish something but for some reason with all good intentions we just cannot seem to get there. What is that in ourselves that refuses to shift?
I believe it has to do with cost and budget. Everything we do in this life comes with a cost, right? And rarely is it about finance, especially when it comes to personal growth and development. Two definitions of budget are an itemized allotment of funds, time, etc., for a given period; and a limited stock or supply of something. These are very useful when we are trying to figure out our budget for getting what we say we want.
What we want to look is our cost, our itemized allotment, which is not monetary, it is an expense made energetically, or spiritually.
Okay… so let’s do an activity together. You will need a notebook or diary, something on which to write. Before you begin, take one extra minute to breathe. Let yourself be still and quiet, for one minute. Breathe in, purposefully, and exhale, purposefully. Allow yourself to ground. Allow yourself time to accomplish something without a million other things jumping in the way.
- First: write out what it is you say you want as though it has already happened. Example: I see myself ten pounds lighter.
- Second: write out the steps or requirements as you can think of to get your goal. Let’s say you “know” that in order to lose weight you need to stop eating ice cream at night, great! Write that down. If at first you said, “I must give up ice cream” then that is your truth, please do not start some re-negotiation. Instead, let’s start to move into one of two places: either truly coming to grips with the fact that your daily ice cream is more important to you than losing weight… AND BE OKAY WITH THAT; or coming to a place within yourself where you are willing to give up the ice cream, at least temporarily, so you can enjoy weight loss and a healthier, happier, more vibrant you. You need to move your body more frequently during the day. Write that down, hen what does that mean?
- Third: tune in to your personal budget. Well let’s say you feel, for whatever reason, that you cannot go to the gym. Okay fine, so instead you know that you can take a ten-minute walk every morning at 10:30, and then a 15-minute walk during your lunch break, and then another 20-minute walk after dinner every night. The more specific you can be, the better you will be able to determine whether this is in your “budget”. This step could be lengthy, so take your time and be willing to have the process be on-going, jot down more steps as they come to you. Be sure that you have the budget in your day to accomplish your goals.
** Fourth, breathe. Even though this is broken down into three simple steps, this is not an easy process. So breathe. Let yourself be with all the thoughts and considerations that will arise as you consider what you really want to have happen in your life and what you are willing to do.
And please let me/us know how it’s going!